This is Billy's brother so do not think he has found a way to communicate from the after life.
The family, through me, is trying to tie up the loose ends and put a closing chapter to his life, which ended all too soon with the tragedy of his death on July 8th, 2010.
Thank you for being a friend to my brother.
May he finally have the peace that eluded him in life.
Saturday, July 17, 2010
Sunday, December 6, 2009
Delaying Your Gratifications
Our society is all about instant gratification. However, the exact opposite is what we truly need. We need to learn how to delay our gratifications. Getting everything you want whenever you want it creates a lot of impatient & spoilt minded behavior. It’s almost like you’ve committed a murder if you make someone wait. So what are you delaying? You’re delaying your gratification of your egotistical pleasure seeking ways.
Okay, so you’re buying into what I’m saying & you want to delay all your gratifications right now. You have just committed a baby steps violation. Before you can successfully delay your gratifications, you need to understand & appreciate the tremendous power of baby steps.
Okay, so you believe that delaying your gratifications can improve your life & you understand that baby steps is the way to apply it. So now let me give you an example of how it works:
You’re wanting to go to Wendy’s & have a burger. You know you’re going to do it, because the craving has you. You want to rush off & do it. Instead of rushing off, you negotiate with yourself. Can I wait an hour? You think, “No!” Can I wait 30 minutes? You think, “Yeah, I can wait 30 minutes but no longer.” Then, while you are waiting you realize, “Why don’t I have a banana before I go to Wendy’s?” So you have a banana, wait 30 minutes & at the end of the 30 minutes you realize that wasn’t so bad, the banana was pretty good, you feel more at peace with yourself, your control over ego & pleasure is strengthened & the burger really wasn’t that good.
This may not seem like much of a victory to your ego but neither does a tree’s growth on any particular day but give it twenty years of baby steps & the tree is massive. The reason we have problems with baby steps is our big egos which is principle seven of my blog.
Are you starting to see the power of my Following the Way of Growth blog? It is not a bunch of philosophies. It is principles that really work. I know they work because I live them.
Okay, so you’re buying into what I’m saying & you want to delay all your gratifications right now. You have just committed a baby steps violation. Before you can successfully delay your gratifications, you need to understand & appreciate the tremendous power of baby steps.
Okay, so you believe that delaying your gratifications can improve your life & you understand that baby steps is the way to apply it. So now let me give you an example of how it works:
You’re wanting to go to Wendy’s & have a burger. You know you’re going to do it, because the craving has you. You want to rush off & do it. Instead of rushing off, you negotiate with yourself. Can I wait an hour? You think, “No!” Can I wait 30 minutes? You think, “Yeah, I can wait 30 minutes but no longer.” Then, while you are waiting you realize, “Why don’t I have a banana before I go to Wendy’s?” So you have a banana, wait 30 minutes & at the end of the 30 minutes you realize that wasn’t so bad, the banana was pretty good, you feel more at peace with yourself, your control over ego & pleasure is strengthened & the burger really wasn’t that good.
This may not seem like much of a victory to your ego but neither does a tree’s growth on any particular day but give it twenty years of baby steps & the tree is massive. The reason we have problems with baby steps is our big egos which is principle seven of my blog.
Are you starting to see the power of my Following the Way of Growth blog? It is not a bunch of philosophies. It is principles that really work. I know they work because I live them.
Thursday, November 5, 2009
Check My Twitter Account for the Latest Updates
I don’t see much going on in this blog for a while. I’m focusing the majority of my time on updating the Following the Way of Growth blog & The Path blog. If you’re interested in the latest updates, the best place to look is my twitter account.
Saturday, September 26, 2009
Slanderous Attacks & Who You Are
Who you are isn't affected by what others say or think about you. How you respond to others' words & thoughts does reveal who you are.
If a person makes a slanderous attack on you, all they have done is attack your personal image. For a time people may think less of you but in time when the truth is revealed they'll think higher of you. Eventually, it will settle down to who you really are. People can only fool others on who you are in the short run. In the long run you are what you are.
We have problems with slanderous attacks because we feel like we are being attacked. But the truth is that they are only attacking a phantom. Your image only exists in people's minds. It's not a reality. We feel attacked by it because our egos are so big. Instead of having a knee jerk reaction, see how their comments make you feel & work on it. Don't worry about how others perceive you. Instead concern yourself with who you really are. If you don't like what you see, then change it.
In a similar line of thought you shouldn't think or say anything about yourself that you didn't have to say because it typically hurts you. People already have a good idea of who you are. It's not a secret to anybody except maybe you. It's like a booger on your nose. You're usually the last one to know. Instead focus on really changing yourself in a positive direction. In fact I wouldn't talk or think about anybody else either unless it's necessary. People love to play with the image of others. It's fantasy land so don't get caught up in it. Stick with reality and avoid it.
In short your image isn't you.
Definition: Ego - sense of self.
You can read a similar topic Time & You at The Path.
If a person makes a slanderous attack on you, all they have done is attack your personal image. For a time people may think less of you but in time when the truth is revealed they'll think higher of you. Eventually, it will settle down to who you really are. People can only fool others on who you are in the short run. In the long run you are what you are.
We have problems with slanderous attacks because we feel like we are being attacked. But the truth is that they are only attacking a phantom. Your image only exists in people's minds. It's not a reality. We feel attacked by it because our egos are so big. Instead of having a knee jerk reaction, see how their comments make you feel & work on it. Don't worry about how others perceive you. Instead concern yourself with who you really are. If you don't like what you see, then change it.
In a similar line of thought you shouldn't think or say anything about yourself that you didn't have to say because it typically hurts you. People already have a good idea of who you are. It's not a secret to anybody except maybe you. It's like a booger on your nose. You're usually the last one to know. Instead focus on really changing yourself in a positive direction. In fact I wouldn't talk or think about anybody else either unless it's necessary. People love to play with the image of others. It's fantasy land so don't get caught up in it. Stick with reality and avoid it.
In short your image isn't you.
Definition: Ego - sense of self.
You can read a similar topic Time & You at The Path.
Thursday, September 3, 2009
Picking a Mate
BODY MATE
The lowest level for picking a mate is based on body. At this level the only thing that really matters is the way the body looks.
MIND MATE
The next level up for picking a mate is based mainly on the mind. The body is taken into consideration but the mind is the dominating factor.
SOUL MATE
The next level up for picking a mate is based mainly on the spirit. The mind & body are taken into consideration but the spirit dominates the decision.
ACTION MATE
The highest level for picking a mate is based mainly on the actions of the individual. The spirit, mind & body are taken into consideration but the actions of the individual are the dominating factor.
At this level the whole person is considered. No attachment to spirit, mind or body will make this chooser ignore the actions of the person involved.
You can watch How to Investigate a Mate & How to Pick a Mate at YouTube.
You can read a similar topic Relationships at The Path.
The lowest level for picking a mate is based on body. At this level the only thing that really matters is the way the body looks.
MIND MATE
The next level up for picking a mate is based mainly on the mind. The body is taken into consideration but the mind is the dominating factor.
SOUL MATE
The next level up for picking a mate is based mainly on the spirit. The mind & body are taken into consideration but the spirit dominates the decision.
ACTION MATE
The highest level for picking a mate is based mainly on the actions of the individual. The spirit, mind & body are taken into consideration but the actions of the individual are the dominating factor.
At this level the whole person is considered. No attachment to spirit, mind or body will make this chooser ignore the actions of the person involved.
You can watch How to Investigate a Mate & How to Pick a Mate at YouTube.
You can read a similar topic Relationships at The Path.
Tuesday, September 1, 2009
The Real Solution
The real solution is changing yourself. Once you’re willing to change yourself, a whole new world of possibilities emerges. Your old stagnate ways of thinking start to break down & you see the world in a whole new light. Your mind opens & solutions to the impossible problems of the past become clear.
Notice that changing yourself is the solution that precedes all other solutions. Also notice that the real solution doesn’t just apply to spiritual training within one’s self but everywhere: relationships, science, religion, politics, global warming, health care, etc. Changing the world is simple. It only requires you changing yourself.
Your unwillingness to face your ego is the only thing standing in your way to changing yourself. This is why I say “Ego & pleasure are the roots of all problems.”
Most people fail because they think the answer is outside of themselves. The real solution never changes. That is why I love profound truth. Once you know it, you really know something. Plus, it’s something you can build on.
Even if you know the real solution, it’s difficult to apply. Before you know it, you’re in the heat of the moment with your emotions overriding reason. The moment you take your awareness off yourself, you’re vulnerable to failure.
You can watch my video The Real Solution at YouTube.
You can read more about Smart & Stupid People at The Path.
Notice that changing yourself is the solution that precedes all other solutions. Also notice that the real solution doesn’t just apply to spiritual training within one’s self but everywhere: relationships, science, religion, politics, global warming, health care, etc. Changing the world is simple. It only requires you changing yourself.
Your unwillingness to face your ego is the only thing standing in your way to changing yourself. This is why I say “Ego & pleasure are the roots of all problems.”
Most people fail because they think the answer is outside of themselves. The real solution never changes. That is why I love profound truth. Once you know it, you really know something. Plus, it’s something you can build on.
Even if you know the real solution, it’s difficult to apply. Before you know it, you’re in the heat of the moment with your emotions overriding reason. The moment you take your awareness off yourself, you’re vulnerable to failure.
You can watch my video The Real Solution at YouTube.
You can read more about Smart & Stupid People at The Path.
Monday, August 24, 2009
Punishing Trash Talkers
We’ve all encountered trash talkers online. Many of us would love to torture them. After much thought, I’ve developed the ultimate punishment. What is the worst possible thing you could do to another person? Torture them slowly every moment of their life until they die & then pass it on to their kids & family. Yeah, that is what I’m talking about! Let’s do it!!!
Here is how it works. The person talking trash is already miserable. So all you have to do is not interfere with the process of self destruction.
Trash talkers are really crying out for help, “Please someone discipline me & help me get my life on course.” If you really want to punish them, do nothing.
Don’t fall prey to being a do-gooder. Don’t go trying to save them. It’s not your job to save anyone except yourself. It’s their job to save themselves. If they humble themselves to you, then you can help but not a moment before.
In short the greatest revenge is to do nothing. Josh Billings said, “There is no revenge so complete as forgiveness.” I would say you only have to forgive because you were offended. The need for forgiveness is a sign of ego.
Trash talking isn’t about you. It’s about them. Use trash talkers to see your own ego.
You can watch my video Punishing Trash Talkers at YouTube.
Here is how it works. The person talking trash is already miserable. So all you have to do is not interfere with the process of self destruction.
Trash talkers are really crying out for help, “Please someone discipline me & help me get my life on course.” If you really want to punish them, do nothing.
Don’t fall prey to being a do-gooder. Don’t go trying to save them. It’s not your job to save anyone except yourself. It’s their job to save themselves. If they humble themselves to you, then you can help but not a moment before.
In short the greatest revenge is to do nothing. Josh Billings said, “There is no revenge so complete as forgiveness.” I would say you only have to forgive because you were offended. The need for forgiveness is a sign of ego.
Trash talking isn’t about you. It’s about them. Use trash talkers to see your own ego.
You can watch my video Punishing Trash Talkers at YouTube.
Sunday, August 23, 2009
Significantly Brighter & Duller People
It’s not wise spending your time dealing with people who are significantly brighter or duller than yourself.
People who are significantly brighter will see things faster & clear which leads to dependency upon their mind instead of your own.
People who are significantly duller will take too longer to understand & it’ll take too much energy to explain it.
It’s wiser to find people who are on your level. This way you’ll see things at about the same speed & depth. I’m not saying be stagnate. I’m saying challenge yourself in small ways which is optimal.
You can watch my video Significantly Brighter & Duller People at YouTube.
You can read more about Relationships at The Path.
People who are significantly brighter will see things faster & clear which leads to dependency upon their mind instead of your own.
People who are significantly duller will take too longer to understand & it’ll take too much energy to explain it.
It’s wiser to find people who are on your level. This way you’ll see things at about the same speed & depth. I’m not saying be stagnate. I’m saying challenge yourself in small ways which is optimal.
You can watch my video Significantly Brighter & Duller People at YouTube.
You can read more about Relationships at The Path.
Saturday, August 22, 2009
The Purpose of Life
The purpose of life is to achieve harmony with the essence of life. If you prefer, you can substitute God or nature for essence.
You achieve harmony with the essence of life by giving up your egotistical pleasure seeking ways a little each day.
Some of the seemly toughest questions have the simplest answers. The answer is simple but the application & the understanding can be quite difficult.
The meaning of life is an egotistical pursuit. Achieve harmony with the essence of life & you’ll know what I mean.
You can watch my video The Purpose of Life at YouTube:
You can read more about The Ultimate Goal at The Path.
You achieve harmony with the essence of life by giving up your egotistical pleasure seeking ways a little each day.
Some of the seemly toughest questions have the simplest answers. The answer is simple but the application & the understanding can be quite difficult.
The meaning of life is an egotistical pursuit. Achieve harmony with the essence of life & you’ll know what I mean.
You can watch my video The Purpose of Life at YouTube:
You can read more about The Ultimate Goal at The Path.
The Purpose of Sex
The purpose of sex is procreation, not indulgence. Wild animals mainly have sex for procreation. However, humans have lost touch with what is optimal as Moses pointed out.
The first job of your senses is survival. The second job is to procreate wisely. Humans endlessly fall prey to sensory pleasures.
You can watch my video The Purpose of Sex at YouTube.
You can read more about Men & Women at The Path.
The first job of your senses is survival. The second job is to procreate wisely. Humans endlessly fall prey to sensory pleasures.
You can watch my video The Purpose of Sex at YouTube.
You can read more about Men & Women at The Path.
Friday, August 21, 2009
Aliens - Q & A
What you’re about to read is based on natural principles. Life is patterns with randomness sprinkled in. Based on the patterns of this world it’s not too hard to figure out what is likely to happen if aliens & humans come into contact.
Do aliens exist?
With almost certainty they exist. If God does it once, he typically does it over & over again. Humans like to think of themselves as being special but time & time again this has been proven wrong.
Do aliens look like us?
Most likely not. Look at all the different species that have existed on this planet. Then, imagine their world with all its different circumstances. It is highly unlikely that they would resemble us. They would have to follow natural principles like us. So maybe there will be some similarities. In a 100,000 years humans may not resemble us today.
Have aliens already been here?
I don’t know but it seems doubtful. Our first encounter would likely be a probe or a satellite type communication.
Will aliens ever make it here?
I think so but it may be a really long time before that happens. The distance between us is huge. I think it’s a lot like the Native American’s & the white man situation. The distance protected the Native Americans for a long time but eventually didn’t.
What will the first face to face encounter be like?
The first encounter will eventually lead to a war of dominance, not a war of extinction like Hollywood likes to portray. God likes a return on his investment. Did we kill off all the animals or the Native Americans? No & it’s not likely either will be extinct after the war but both will know their role.
If they find us, they’ll eventually exploit us just like we’ve exploited animals & other less advanced people. If we find them, we’ll eventually exploit them. It’s the way of dominance & superiority.
What is the best solution to protecting our species?
To seek harmony with the essence of life which automatically leads to sustainable progress. If we don’t progress, we’ll be like the Native Americans unprepared for the challenge that is coming.
You can watch my video Aliens - Q & A at YouTube.
Do aliens exist?
With almost certainty they exist. If God does it once, he typically does it over & over again. Humans like to think of themselves as being special but time & time again this has been proven wrong.
Do aliens look like us?
Most likely not. Look at all the different species that have existed on this planet. Then, imagine their world with all its different circumstances. It is highly unlikely that they would resemble us. They would have to follow natural principles like us. So maybe there will be some similarities. In a 100,000 years humans may not resemble us today.
Have aliens already been here?
I don’t know but it seems doubtful. Our first encounter would likely be a probe or a satellite type communication.
Will aliens ever make it here?
I think so but it may be a really long time before that happens. The distance between us is huge. I think it’s a lot like the Native American’s & the white man situation. The distance protected the Native Americans for a long time but eventually didn’t.
What will the first face to face encounter be like?
The first encounter will eventually lead to a war of dominance, not a war of extinction like Hollywood likes to portray. God likes a return on his investment. Did we kill off all the animals or the Native Americans? No & it’s not likely either will be extinct after the war but both will know their role.
If they find us, they’ll eventually exploit us just like we’ve exploited animals & other less advanced people. If we find them, we’ll eventually exploit them. It’s the way of dominance & superiority.
What is the best solution to protecting our species?
To seek harmony with the essence of life which automatically leads to sustainable progress. If we don’t progress, we’ll be like the Native Americans unprepared for the challenge that is coming.
You can watch my video Aliens - Q & A at YouTube.
Faith is Power!
Faith is perceiving that all will be well with little or no interference by you. Faith is developed by perceiving & is followed by believing. Faith is a spiritual revelation that frees your mind from worrying & busy work. In short faith is a lack of ego.
Blind faith is believing without perceiving. Blind faith is a mental concept not a spiritual freedom. Blind faith is laziness or ignorance. In short blind faith is ego.
People who have faith aren’t easily shaken by circumstances. They know it will work out even if it isn’t in their best interest. People who have blind faith are easily shaken by circumstances & are endless busy, worrying & untrusting.
Man's problem is that he doesn't know his role. Do your job & let God do his. When you know your role, you know God’s power & use it fully. When you don’t know your role, your power is limited to you.
When little is done & all is well, your faith grows. That isn’t what we are taught in America. We are taught to do much or nothing will get done. In America it’s about forcing your will, not harmonizing with nature or God’s will. Force is a lack of faith & perception. Do you want the illusion of power or do you want power?
If you want to develop faith, grow a garden. Notice how you really aren’t doing much. God is doing most of the work. Your main job is to get out of the way.
Have you noticed it’s hard to let people down who have faith in you & easy to let people down who don't have faith in you? People will try to meet your expectations if they are reasonable. When you have faith in others, you get to use their power. Are you starting to see the power of faith?
Faith is power! The lack of faith is weakness. The more you give up your egotistical pleasure seeking ways the more faith you’ll have.
You can watch my video Faith is Power! at YouTube.
You can read the essence of Faith at The Path.
Blind faith is believing without perceiving. Blind faith is a mental concept not a spiritual freedom. Blind faith is laziness or ignorance. In short blind faith is ego.
People who have faith aren’t easily shaken by circumstances. They know it will work out even if it isn’t in their best interest. People who have blind faith are easily shaken by circumstances & are endless busy, worrying & untrusting.
Man's problem is that he doesn't know his role. Do your job & let God do his. When you know your role, you know God’s power & use it fully. When you don’t know your role, your power is limited to you.
When little is done & all is well, your faith grows. That isn’t what we are taught in America. We are taught to do much or nothing will get done. In America it’s about forcing your will, not harmonizing with nature or God’s will. Force is a lack of faith & perception. Do you want the illusion of power or do you want power?
If you want to develop faith, grow a garden. Notice how you really aren’t doing much. God is doing most of the work. Your main job is to get out of the way.
Have you noticed it’s hard to let people down who have faith in you & easy to let people down who don't have faith in you? People will try to meet your expectations if they are reasonable. When you have faith in others, you get to use their power. Are you starting to see the power of faith?
Faith is power! The lack of faith is weakness. The more you give up your egotistical pleasure seeking ways the more faith you’ll have.
You can watch my video Faith is Power! at YouTube.
You can read the essence of Faith at The Path.
Thursday, August 20, 2009
Your Mind is Like an Iceberg
Ten percent of an iceberg is above water. You mind is divided in a similar manner. You’re only aware of 10% of your problems.
If you chose to follow the way, you’ll have to face your problems. The best place to face yourself is with your conscious problems. As your conscious problems are dealt with unconscious problems float into consciousness which is similar to the ice above water melting & the ice below water floating up.
The process of unconscious problems floating into consciousness will continue as long as you work on them. Most people don’t work on their problems which adds to their problems. They sink even more problems into their unconsciousness. Temporarily they feel victorious but it’s short sighted. They increase their burden in life & distance themselves from their spirit & life.
I don’t know if there is an end to the problems the mind holds but I do know facing your problems is the right path. I also know it won’t seem easy doing the optimal thing but in the long run you won’t regret it. With each problem conquered your load is lightened & you become closer to your spirit which increases your connection to yourself & life. Lao Tzu said this over 2,500 years ago, “Going forward seems like retreat.”
You can watch my video Your Mind is Like an Iceberg at YouTube.
You can read more about Your Mind is Like an Iceberg at The Path.
If you chose to follow the way, you’ll have to face your problems. The best place to face yourself is with your conscious problems. As your conscious problems are dealt with unconscious problems float into consciousness which is similar to the ice above water melting & the ice below water floating up.
The process of unconscious problems floating into consciousness will continue as long as you work on them. Most people don’t work on their problems which adds to their problems. They sink even more problems into their unconsciousness. Temporarily they feel victorious but it’s short sighted. They increase their burden in life & distance themselves from their spirit & life.
I don’t know if there is an end to the problems the mind holds but I do know facing your problems is the right path. I also know it won’t seem easy doing the optimal thing but in the long run you won’t regret it. With each problem conquered your load is lightened & you become closer to your spirit which increases your connection to yourself & life. Lao Tzu said this over 2,500 years ago, “Going forward seems like retreat.”
You can watch my video Your Mind is Like an Iceberg at YouTube.
You can read more about Your Mind is Like an Iceberg at The Path.
Religion Is Spiritual Training Wheels
You are born not knowing how to fully live your life. Religion can give you some basic guidance until you start learning reality for yourself. Therefore, religion is spiritual training wheels. Training wheels are meant to be taken off. Likewise, religion is meant to be shed off & learning for yourself is meant to begin. Clinging to religion is the unwillingness to learn reality for yourself which is basically spiritual laziness.
You can watch my video Religion Is Spiritual Training Wheels at YouTube.
You can read more about Religion, Science, Truth, Reality, Savior & Knowing at The Path.
You can watch my video Religion Is Spiritual Training Wheels at YouTube.
You can read more about Religion, Science, Truth, Reality, Savior & Knowing at The Path.
Wednesday, August 19, 2009
Destiny or Free Will?
In short destiny is using your free will optimally.
Free will is the ability to make your own choices. Destiny is fulfilling your potential. You only fulfill your potential by living optimally. You only live optimally by giving up your egotistical pleasure seeking ways. Therefore, you only fulfill your destiny by willfully giving up your ways for the essence’s ways.
Here is my latest revelation:
Knowledge is facts.
Wisdom is optimal actions.
Free Will is the ability to choose actions.
Destiny is a lifelong series of wise actions.
You can watch my videos Destiny or Free Will? & Knowledge, Wisdom, Free Will & Destiny at YouTube.
You can read more about Control, Power, Destiny & Respect at The Path.
Free will is the ability to make your own choices. Destiny is fulfilling your potential. You only fulfill your potential by living optimally. You only live optimally by giving up your egotistical pleasure seeking ways. Therefore, you only fulfill your destiny by willfully giving up your ways for the essence’s ways.
Here is my latest revelation:
Knowledge is facts.
Wisdom is optimal actions.
Free Will is the ability to choose actions.
Destiny is a lifelong series of wise actions.
You can watch my videos Destiny or Free Will? & Knowledge, Wisdom, Free Will & Destiny at YouTube.
You can read more about Control, Power, Destiny & Respect at The Path.
Force & Cleverness
Force is a gross attempt to exhort your will on reality which leads to resistance & resentment. Cleverness is a subtle attempt to exhort your will on reality which leads to a lack of trust & resentment. Therefore, force & cleverness are losing strategies. The root of force & cleverness is ego. You lose your power when you use force or cleverness. Your true power lies in using your energy wisely.
You use force & cleverness out of ignorance. You use them because you falsely believe you won’t get what you need without them which is a lack of faith. You use them because you falsely believe “If I had more, my life would be better.” which is greed.
Not forcing your will & avoid cleverness leads to a profound understanding, “Go where you are welcomed & avoid where you are shunned.” The power of yielding is underestimated by ego because it looks weak but if you use it, you’ll find it adequate.
You can watch my video Force & Cleverness at YouTube.
You can read about The Ultimate Methods at The Path.
You use force & cleverness out of ignorance. You use them because you falsely believe you won’t get what you need without them which is a lack of faith. You use them because you falsely believe “If I had more, my life would be better.” which is greed.
Not forcing your will & avoid cleverness leads to a profound understanding, “Go where you are welcomed & avoid where you are shunned.” The power of yielding is underestimated by ego because it looks weak but if you use it, you’ll find it adequate.
You can watch my video Force & Cleverness at YouTube.
You can read about The Ultimate Methods at The Path.
Saturday, August 15, 2009
Dealing with Thoughts
Thoughts can be constructive or destructive. Constructive thoughts are brief & peaceful. Destructive thoughts lead to more thoughts, emotions & confusion.
The best place to stop a destructive thought process is before it gets started. A good question to ask yourself is “Is this thought coming from an emotion or an intuitive calculation?”
If it is coming from an emotion, it will lead to more thoughts, emotions & confusion. If you find yourself in a destructive thought process, the best way to get out of it is to take your awareness out of your thoughts & put it into your senses.
If the answer to the question is an intuitive calculation, then the results will be positive & the thought process will be brief & peaceful. However, if you ignore the intuitive calculation, the mind will become restless. Once you obey your unconscious, the mind will settle.
You can watch my video Dealing with Thoughts at YouTube.
The best place to stop a destructive thought process is before it gets started. A good question to ask yourself is “Is this thought coming from an emotion or an intuitive calculation?”
If it is coming from an emotion, it will lead to more thoughts, emotions & confusion. If you find yourself in a destructive thought process, the best way to get out of it is to take your awareness out of your thoughts & put it into your senses.
If the answer to the question is an intuitive calculation, then the results will be positive & the thought process will be brief & peaceful. However, if you ignore the intuitive calculation, the mind will become restless. Once you obey your unconscious, the mind will settle.
You can watch my video Dealing with Thoughts at YouTube.
Friday, August 14, 2009
Virtue & Ignorance
The optimal goal of life is to maximize your essence, not to maximize your pleasures & egotistical attainments.
Virtue is being in harmony with the essence of life which basically means not being self-centered & not seeking pleasure. When you are virtuous, your essence grows regardless if you know it or not. Therefore, virtue is its own reward.
Ignorance is being out of harmony with the essence of life which basically means being self-centered and/or pleasure seeking. When you are ignorant, your essence decreases regardless if you know it or not. Therefore, ignorance is its own punishment.
Virtue is only painful in the short run like sore muscles. Because, it requires you to give something up in the short run that long term wouldn’t be beneficial. Virtuous people see more of the consequences of their actions.
Ignorance is only blissful in the short run like illicit drugs. Because, in the short run you get something you want but you fail to see the long term consequences of your actions. Ignorant people see less of the consequences of their actions.
Have you heard these sayings? “You reap what you sow!” “You’ve made your bed. Now, go lie in it.”
Your actions determine your virtue. You are always planting something. Do you want to harvest wheat or weeds?
You can watch my video Virtue & Ignorance at YouTube.
You can read the essence of Virtue & Ignorance at The Path.
Virtue is being in harmony with the essence of life which basically means not being self-centered & not seeking pleasure. When you are virtuous, your essence grows regardless if you know it or not. Therefore, virtue is its own reward.
Ignorance is being out of harmony with the essence of life which basically means being self-centered and/or pleasure seeking. When you are ignorant, your essence decreases regardless if you know it or not. Therefore, ignorance is its own punishment.
Virtue is only painful in the short run like sore muscles. Because, it requires you to give something up in the short run that long term wouldn’t be beneficial. Virtuous people see more of the consequences of their actions.
Ignorance is only blissful in the short run like illicit drugs. Because, in the short run you get something you want but you fail to see the long term consequences of your actions. Ignorant people see less of the consequences of their actions.
Have you heard these sayings? “You reap what you sow!” “You’ve made your bed. Now, go lie in it.”
Your actions determine your virtue. You are always planting something. Do you want to harvest wheat or weeds?
You can watch my video Virtue & Ignorance at YouTube.
You can read the essence of Virtue & Ignorance at The Path.
Friday, August 7, 2009
Science isn’t Spiritual!
Science is a conscious endeavor, not a spiritual one. Lets talk about some of the similarities between science & consciousness. Both are slow, methodical, effortful & caught up in details. Both are simple straight line thinking. Both can only handle a few variables at a time and are limited in ability & power. Both can be extremely boring.
On the other hand intuition is fast, decisive, lively, exciting, effortless, careless & spherical thinking. Intuition can handle seemly endless variables without getting caught up in the details. It can bring all the important factors of life to bare on a single problem.
You need to understand the mind to understand science’s role in life. Intuition is where the real power of the mind lies. Consciousness’ job is to keep intuition in check, collect the intuitive thoughts & to question the validate of those thoughts.
Likewise, intuitive people should be doing the majority of the thinking in this world with scientists keeping them in check. When I say intuitive people, I don’t mean religious people. Religion is the conscious codification of a spiritual path. It’s not the path. Just like science, religion is the absence of spirit. You can’t put spirit into words. All words can do is point to the spirit. Intuitive people have problems with religion because religious people over steps their bounds just like scientists.
Science is suppose to lack spirit but it’s not meant to ignore spirit. Intuition & consciousness should know their proper roles and be respectful of each other. Things only get ignorant when one over steps its bounds. Both need each other just like men & women need each other. Harmony between science & intuition is needed.
The lack of harmony between spirit & consciousness is why blacks & whites have a love hate relationship. Blacks cling to spirit to the detriment of consciousness. Whites cling to consciousness to the detriment of spirit.
If scientists could humble themselves, they could make greater progress with less effort & resources. Look at what Einstein did when he brought intuition to science. He flipped the arrogant scientists on their heads much like a master martial arts does to an arrogant opponent. Likewise, spiritual people need to pay the proper respect to the scientific facts because they bring back sanity to their spiritual paths.
The struggle between science & intuition is very similar to the struggle between men & women. Man wouldn’t exist without women & visa versa. Likewise, scientists & spiritual people really do need each other. It’s time scientists & spiritual people work together to create a greater knowledge with facts & spirit. It’s time for spirit & cognition to quit fighting & learn to work together for the betterment of all.
You can watch my video Science's Role in Life? at YouTube.
On the other hand intuition is fast, decisive, lively, exciting, effortless, careless & spherical thinking. Intuition can handle seemly endless variables without getting caught up in the details. It can bring all the important factors of life to bare on a single problem.
You need to understand the mind to understand science’s role in life. Intuition is where the real power of the mind lies. Consciousness’ job is to keep intuition in check, collect the intuitive thoughts & to question the validate of those thoughts.
Likewise, intuitive people should be doing the majority of the thinking in this world with scientists keeping them in check. When I say intuitive people, I don’t mean religious people. Religion is the conscious codification of a spiritual path. It’s not the path. Just like science, religion is the absence of spirit. You can’t put spirit into words. All words can do is point to the spirit. Intuitive people have problems with religion because religious people over steps their bounds just like scientists.
Science is suppose to lack spirit but it’s not meant to ignore spirit. Intuition & consciousness should know their proper roles and be respectful of each other. Things only get ignorant when one over steps its bounds. Both need each other just like men & women need each other. Harmony between science & intuition is needed.
The lack of harmony between spirit & consciousness is why blacks & whites have a love hate relationship. Blacks cling to spirit to the detriment of consciousness. Whites cling to consciousness to the detriment of spirit.
If scientists could humble themselves, they could make greater progress with less effort & resources. Look at what Einstein did when he brought intuition to science. He flipped the arrogant scientists on their heads much like a master martial arts does to an arrogant opponent. Likewise, spiritual people need to pay the proper respect to the scientific facts because they bring back sanity to their spiritual paths.
The struggle between science & intuition is very similar to the struggle between men & women. Man wouldn’t exist without women & visa versa. Likewise, scientists & spiritual people really do need each other. It’s time scientists & spiritual people work together to create a greater knowledge with facts & spirit. It’s time for spirit & cognition to quit fighting & learn to work together for the betterment of all.
You can watch my video Science's Role in Life? at YouTube.
Thursday, August 6, 2009
What Does Soul Mates Mean Anyway?
We get in trouble with soul mates because we falsely believe it must be because of the spiritual connection or we believe another connection like that will never come along again.
If you have a spiritual connection with another but the relationship can’t make it through baby steps, then the spiritual connection really didn’t matter.
If you have no spiritual connection with another but the relationship makes it through baby steps, then the lack of spiritual connection really didn’t matter.
All the spiritual connection does is help you to know where to spend a little more energy. Don’t make the person out to be something they aren’t or haven’t earned.
It all boils down to baby steps.
Don’t think about the person,
Don’t worry about the person,
Don’t fantasize about the person,
Don’t assume it must be,
Just follow baby steps.
Baby steps will reveal what is suppose to be!
Don’t get me wrong. Soul mates are special & deserve special consideration but don’t make it out to be something that it isn’t. Listen to your spiritual, follow natural principles & keep your mind rooted in reality.
You can watch my videos What Does Soul Mates Mean Anyway? & Soul Mates: An Actuarial Perspective at YouTube.
If you have a spiritual connection with another but the relationship can’t make it through baby steps, then the spiritual connection really didn’t matter.
If you have no spiritual connection with another but the relationship makes it through baby steps, then the lack of spiritual connection really didn’t matter.
All the spiritual connection does is help you to know where to spend a little more energy. Don’t make the person out to be something they aren’t or haven’t earned.
It all boils down to baby steps.
Don’t think about the person,
Don’t worry about the person,
Don’t fantasize about the person,
Don’t assume it must be,
Just follow baby steps.
Baby steps will reveal what is suppose to be!
Don’t get me wrong. Soul mates are special & deserve special consideration but don’t make it out to be something that it isn’t. Listen to your spiritual, follow natural principles & keep your mind rooted in reality.
You can watch my videos What Does Soul Mates Mean Anyway? & Soul Mates: An Actuarial Perspective at YouTube.
Sunday, August 2, 2009
How Pleasure Causes Problems
The root of all problems is ego & pleasure. In this article I’m only dealing with pleasure. In the next article I will deal with ego.
In short indulging in pleasure separates you from the essence of life. Abstaining from pleasure reconnects you to the essence of life. The best way to get out of pleasurable indulges is the same way you got in them, a little each day & by focusing your efforts on the grossest pleasures. For every pleasure you’ve indulged in there will be an equal misery you’ll have to face while you’re getting out of them. Giving into pleasures is a downhill sled ride & giving up pleasures is the snowy walk back up the hill.
The quickest way to illustrate how pleasure separates you from the essence of life is to look at illicit drugs. It’s obvious the gross pleasures of illicit drugs destroy people. Therefore, most people don’t indulge in them.
When the pleasures become subtler, it’s harder to see the destructive consequences. Therefore, more people indulge. If you’re experiencing simple subtle natural constructive pleasures of life that is fine but they shouldn’t be sought out or clung to. For example: the pleasure of a job well done, watching a baby play, listening to birds sing & gazing at flowers. If you’re honest & reasonable, you know what pleasures I’m talking about. Again, focus your efforts on the grossest pleasures you're indulging in, not some subtle debatable pleasure.
Here is my technical argument: Pleasures that connect you to the essence of life are constructive. Pleasures that separate you from the essence of life are destructive. Most if not all manmade pleasures are destructive.
Let’s take a look at our indulgence in pleasurable foods. The movie, “Super Size Me”, illustrates how indulging in gross pleasurable foods on a daily basis quickly leads to health problems. Most people know it’s not healthy to eat out for every meal. How about when the pleasures become more subtle like a home cooked meal? Do you see the dangers in it or is it too subtle? Have you ever heard of anyone who had a heart attack & had to change their diet to simple bland foods? So the danger is obvious if you think about it.
Notice that wild animals don’t have the luxury of indulging in pleasurable foods & they are healthier than you. If you want to reconnect with the essence of life, you have to live simpler. I’m not saying go backwards. I’m saying move forward in sustainable ways without losing your connection with nature.
Problems only become big problems when they aren’t dealt with. Undealt with problems grow unrestrained like a tree slowly encroaching on every aspect of your life. Then, you find yourself lost, confused & pathetic wondering “How did I get here?” It was obvious to the wise but now you’re so screwed up that you don’t have the mind power nor the skills to save yourself. Are you starting to see the dangers of small indulgences over long periods of time?
Small pleasures aren’t considered problems. Therefore, they are indulged in on a daily basis. In fact they may even be encouraged. The consequences are the same as with illicit drugs except that it can take much longer periods of time for the full consequences of those indulges to be realized.
Why do you think each generation gets more pathetic & less moral than the generation before it? A little more indulgence each day. In fact wise people warned a long time ago against it but they were ignored or ridiculed. “Live a little bit!” was the slogan. So vigilance was lost one indulgence at a time. Think of the pleasures you’re indulging in today that weren’t available when you were a kid. The list is endless.
How does a person become fat? One bit at a time. All those comforts & pleasures we indulge in destroy us in small ways each day. It’s passed on from one generation to the next until it collapses a society.
How does a fat person become skinny? By giving up pleasures that go in the mouth & by facing the misery of giving them up. The misery is what keeps most people away from eating simple bland foods but the misery is only temporary until the mind fully adjust.
All I’ve talked about is food but it applies to all comforts & conveniences from air conditioning, soft beds, warm water, music, TV, the list goes on & on! Am I saying all these things are harmful? No! I’m saying that you should try to live without as many of them as possible & notice the positive impact it has on your life. Am I saying give them all up today? No again! I’m saying start to restrain yourself in small ways & again notice the positive impact it has on your life & the people around you.
It will be painful & miserable to give up pleasures which are the opposite of giving into pleasures. Have you ever been around anyone giving up cigarettes? They are miserable & irritable but it only last for a while until their mind adjusts. Likewise, the misery & pain you’ll face are only temporary until your mind fully adjusts. It isn’t easy giving up pleasure but it is necessary.
Life is more than the pursuit of pleasure. Life is about staying connected with the essence of life. If you find yourself losing that connection, then regain it by giving up your pleasurable indulgence. Anytime people become too unhealthy what do they do? They always have to give up some pleasure. Why not avoid the misery in the first place? The drug addict’s life would have been much better if he had never got involved with drugs. Likewise, your life would be much better if you had never got involved in pleasurable indulgences.
Some people think I’m trying to take away their life when I talk about giving up pleasures. However, the exact opposite is true. Does a drug addict have more life by indulging in drugs? Of course not! Your life looks boring to a drug addict. However, the opposite is true. When I tell people the great life is about giving up pleasure, they think it would be too boring. However, the exact opposite is true. You live more fully when you don’t indulge in pleasures.
Lao Tzu said, “Going forward looks like retreat.” The path of pleasure looks amazing but truly is boring. The path of truth looks boring but truly is amazing. I’m not trying to take your life away. I’m trying to show you the optimal life that is full of life & experiences. Try to see passed the immediate delusion of boredom.
Moses tried to point how pleasure & ego separates us from the essence of life a long time ago when he said we were thrown out of the Garden of Eden. The Garden of Eden is not some place a long time ago. It is right here, right now! It’s you who has left by indulging in pleasures & egotistical attainments. Start giving up your pleasures & egotistical attainments and you’ll know what I mean.
This article isn’t a philosophical or religious argument. My life became completely miserable & I had to change my ways. I saved my life by giving up my pleasures & egotistical attainments a little each day. In fact I’m still doing this on a day to day basis. I will deal with ego in the next article.
The price for freedom is constant vigilance over pleasure & ego.
You can watch my video How Pleasure Causes Problems at YouTube.
If you haven't seen Super Size Me here is the link to it on YouTube.
In short indulging in pleasure separates you from the essence of life. Abstaining from pleasure reconnects you to the essence of life. The best way to get out of pleasurable indulges is the same way you got in them, a little each day & by focusing your efforts on the grossest pleasures. For every pleasure you’ve indulged in there will be an equal misery you’ll have to face while you’re getting out of them. Giving into pleasures is a downhill sled ride & giving up pleasures is the snowy walk back up the hill.
The quickest way to illustrate how pleasure separates you from the essence of life is to look at illicit drugs. It’s obvious the gross pleasures of illicit drugs destroy people. Therefore, most people don’t indulge in them.
When the pleasures become subtler, it’s harder to see the destructive consequences. Therefore, more people indulge. If you’re experiencing simple subtle natural constructive pleasures of life that is fine but they shouldn’t be sought out or clung to. For example: the pleasure of a job well done, watching a baby play, listening to birds sing & gazing at flowers. If you’re honest & reasonable, you know what pleasures I’m talking about. Again, focus your efforts on the grossest pleasures you're indulging in, not some subtle debatable pleasure.
Here is my technical argument: Pleasures that connect you to the essence of life are constructive. Pleasures that separate you from the essence of life are destructive. Most if not all manmade pleasures are destructive.
Let’s take a look at our indulgence in pleasurable foods. The movie, “Super Size Me”, illustrates how indulging in gross pleasurable foods on a daily basis quickly leads to health problems. Most people know it’s not healthy to eat out for every meal. How about when the pleasures become more subtle like a home cooked meal? Do you see the dangers in it or is it too subtle? Have you ever heard of anyone who had a heart attack & had to change their diet to simple bland foods? So the danger is obvious if you think about it.
Notice that wild animals don’t have the luxury of indulging in pleasurable foods & they are healthier than you. If you want to reconnect with the essence of life, you have to live simpler. I’m not saying go backwards. I’m saying move forward in sustainable ways without losing your connection with nature.
Problems only become big problems when they aren’t dealt with. Undealt with problems grow unrestrained like a tree slowly encroaching on every aspect of your life. Then, you find yourself lost, confused & pathetic wondering “How did I get here?” It was obvious to the wise but now you’re so screwed up that you don’t have the mind power nor the skills to save yourself. Are you starting to see the dangers of small indulgences over long periods of time?
Small pleasures aren’t considered problems. Therefore, they are indulged in on a daily basis. In fact they may even be encouraged. The consequences are the same as with illicit drugs except that it can take much longer periods of time for the full consequences of those indulges to be realized.
Why do you think each generation gets more pathetic & less moral than the generation before it? A little more indulgence each day. In fact wise people warned a long time ago against it but they were ignored or ridiculed. “Live a little bit!” was the slogan. So vigilance was lost one indulgence at a time. Think of the pleasures you’re indulging in today that weren’t available when you were a kid. The list is endless.
How does a person become fat? One bit at a time. All those comforts & pleasures we indulge in destroy us in small ways each day. It’s passed on from one generation to the next until it collapses a society.
How does a fat person become skinny? By giving up pleasures that go in the mouth & by facing the misery of giving them up. The misery is what keeps most people away from eating simple bland foods but the misery is only temporary until the mind fully adjust.
All I’ve talked about is food but it applies to all comforts & conveniences from air conditioning, soft beds, warm water, music, TV, the list goes on & on! Am I saying all these things are harmful? No! I’m saying that you should try to live without as many of them as possible & notice the positive impact it has on your life. Am I saying give them all up today? No again! I’m saying start to restrain yourself in small ways & again notice the positive impact it has on your life & the people around you.
It will be painful & miserable to give up pleasures which are the opposite of giving into pleasures. Have you ever been around anyone giving up cigarettes? They are miserable & irritable but it only last for a while until their mind adjusts. Likewise, the misery & pain you’ll face are only temporary until your mind fully adjusts. It isn’t easy giving up pleasure but it is necessary.
Life is more than the pursuit of pleasure. Life is about staying connected with the essence of life. If you find yourself losing that connection, then regain it by giving up your pleasurable indulgence. Anytime people become too unhealthy what do they do? They always have to give up some pleasure. Why not avoid the misery in the first place? The drug addict’s life would have been much better if he had never got involved with drugs. Likewise, your life would be much better if you had never got involved in pleasurable indulgences.
Some people think I’m trying to take away their life when I talk about giving up pleasures. However, the exact opposite is true. Does a drug addict have more life by indulging in drugs? Of course not! Your life looks boring to a drug addict. However, the opposite is true. When I tell people the great life is about giving up pleasure, they think it would be too boring. However, the exact opposite is true. You live more fully when you don’t indulge in pleasures.
Lao Tzu said, “Going forward looks like retreat.” The path of pleasure looks amazing but truly is boring. The path of truth looks boring but truly is amazing. I’m not trying to take your life away. I’m trying to show you the optimal life that is full of life & experiences. Try to see passed the immediate delusion of boredom.
Moses tried to point how pleasure & ego separates us from the essence of life a long time ago when he said we were thrown out of the Garden of Eden. The Garden of Eden is not some place a long time ago. It is right here, right now! It’s you who has left by indulging in pleasures & egotistical attainments. Start giving up your pleasures & egotistical attainments and you’ll know what I mean.
This article isn’t a philosophical or religious argument. My life became completely miserable & I had to change my ways. I saved my life by giving up my pleasures & egotistical attainments a little each day. In fact I’m still doing this on a day to day basis. I will deal with ego in the next article.
The price for freedom is constant vigilance over pleasure & ego.
You can watch my video How Pleasure Causes Problems at YouTube.
If you haven't seen Super Size Me here is the link to it on YouTube.
Sunday, June 21, 2009
Introduction
This book is the truth simplified & demystified. It’s not what you want to hear. As Lao Tsu said over 2,500 years ago, “Truthful words are not beautiful.” Likewise, the truth I’m about to tell you will insult you on the most fundamental level. If you find yourself getting mad, don’t throw the book down & walk away. Instead throw the book across the room & walk off your emotions. Then, sit back down & look honestly at yourself. Ask yourself “Could this guy be right?” Then, pick the book back up & keep reading.
The purpose of this book is to explain what I said in simpler form in The Path – Welcome to the Truth & Optimal Living. When a joke is explained, it quits being funny. Likewise, when the truth is explained, it quits being powerful. Therefore, this book isn’t as powerful. However, when we are beginners we need all the help we can get. When you haven’t been exposed to much real truth, you may find yourself getting insulted easily than an experienced real truth seeker. Just realize if you’re getting mad & wanting to walk away, then I’m hitting on progress. Don’t run. Investigate it.
Saturday, June 20, 2009
Everything Is Energy!
Everything is energy. I mean everything: this paper, this ink, your eyes, your thoughts, etc. It’s hard to understand isn’t it? However, it’s true! Science has even shown this to be true. Take E=mc^2 which is E, energy, equals m, mass, times c^2, the speed of light squared. Example: E = 1 unit of mass x . Thus, one unit of mass equals x 3.0 x 10^16 units of energy or 30,000,000,000,000,000. Wow, that’s a lot of energy in one unit of mass! A nuclear boom demonstrates this principle.
More importantly my own senses show this to be true. Everything is just a flow of energy. Look at your life it really just an energy flow. Everything flows because it’s energy. Eventhough our minds try to convince us otherwise & tells use things are solid. Some flows are quicker like air, others are slow like rocks.
More importantly my own senses show this to be true. Everything is just a flow of energy. Look at your life it really just an energy flow. Everything flows because it’s energy. Eventhough our minds try to convince us otherwise & tells use things are solid. Some flows are quicker like air, others are slow like rocks.
Tuesday, June 16, 2009
Utopia & Cults
There is a harmony between all opposites. The yin & yang symbol illustrates this. If one side of the opposite goes too far the other side will bring it back & vice versa. For instance, if good goes too far, evil will bring it back. If evil goes too far, good will bring it back. Neither good nor evil can ever be squashed out. Ever! Therefore, abandon all opposites & instead focus on harmony & peace.
The world is perfect; it’s you that needs to change. Utopia is the pursuit of perfection or goodness in the eyes of man which is mankind’s ego. When you set out to change perfection, all you’re creating is trouble. Cult leaders actually believe in utopia that is why they are so persuasive & dangerous. It works for awhile like an illicit drug but after awhile hell sits in. Often times the cult leaders get distraught because they can’t make utopia happen. So instead of giving up the dream & getting back to reality, they’ll offer utopia in the next life. Then, everybody is killed or commits suicide. A few days later you’ll hear about it on the news.
Many realize cults are crazy. However, on a milder scale we all buy into utopia. We falsely believe if only I had this, my life would be great. Here are a few of the utopias we hold: technology, science, savior, leaders, pleasure, no bug bites, air condition, sleep, endless food, health care, etc. It’s easy when someone points out other’s utopia but it’s hard when it’s yours. You want to defend it don’t you? I know you do. All these milder forms of utopia lead to disaster too. I’m not saying don’t use things like science & technology. I’m saying don’t use them to avoid reality.
In short avoid all opposites & instead seek peace. The world is perfect; it’s you that needs to change. Cult leaders buy into utopia & sell it to others. The pursuit of utopia leads to hell. See the pattern & avoid it.
You can watch my video Utopia & Cults at YouTube.
The world is perfect; it’s you that needs to change. Utopia is the pursuit of perfection or goodness in the eyes of man which is mankind’s ego. When you set out to change perfection, all you’re creating is trouble. Cult leaders actually believe in utopia that is why they are so persuasive & dangerous. It works for awhile like an illicit drug but after awhile hell sits in. Often times the cult leaders get distraught because they can’t make utopia happen. So instead of giving up the dream & getting back to reality, they’ll offer utopia in the next life. Then, everybody is killed or commits suicide. A few days later you’ll hear about it on the news.
Many realize cults are crazy. However, on a milder scale we all buy into utopia. We falsely believe if only I had this, my life would be great. Here are a few of the utopias we hold: technology, science, savior, leaders, pleasure, no bug bites, air condition, sleep, endless food, health care, etc. It’s easy when someone points out other’s utopia but it’s hard when it’s yours. You want to defend it don’t you? I know you do. All these milder forms of utopia lead to disaster too. I’m not saying don’t use things like science & technology. I’m saying don’t use them to avoid reality.
In short avoid all opposites & instead seek peace. The world is perfect; it’s you that needs to change. Cult leaders buy into utopia & sell it to others. The pursuit of utopia leads to hell. See the pattern & avoid it.
You can watch my video Utopia & Cults at YouTube.
Monday, June 15, 2009
How to Quit Smoking
How to quit smoking.
Let’s start by talking about failure.
There are only two ways we fail in life. The first is by doing too much which leads to the second failure of doing nothing.
We fail to overcome our addictions because;
1) We don’t have the right method.
2) We don’t want to face ourselves.
Let’s start by saying you’re smoking two packs a day. So for the first month all you’re going to do is evaluate that assumption. So in the morning you lay out two packs & don’t smoke anymore than that.
You’re going to want to do more but don’t.
Let’s assume two packs a day was accurate. Now lets proceed to the second month. For the second month you’re going to smoke two packs minus one cigarette or 39 cigarettes. Assuming a pack has 20 cigarettes in it. Notice all we are doing is implementing disciple in small ways.
You’re going to want to give up more than one cigarette per month but avoid the failure of doing too much. Notice you are disciplining yourself to smoke less & you’re disciplining yourself to not do too much.
Missing one cigarette a day will improve you life but not much. It should be easy to deal with. However, there maybe some minor issues to deal with but you should be able to deal with them. By the months end you shouldn’t even notice. However, if you’re finding it difficult to stick to the plan, then you’ve got other issue that you need to working on. So you’ll need to take an honest look at yourself & evaluate. If you can’t figure it out, ask people who know you. If you’re still not getting clarity, then start a meditation program & figure it out by yourself. Quitter never win & winners never quit. If you don’t have a winning attitude, there is nothing I can do to help you.
Month three; you give up another cigarette. Now you are only smoking 38 cigarettes a day. Again, you’re going to want to do more but don’t. The power of this plan is baby steps. Never underestimated baby steps. Again, avoid the failure of wanting to do too much which leads to doing nothing. Give it time. Patience is a virtue.
It’ll take you time to adjust to one less cigarette. However, it should be minimal. We are looking for long term success, not short term success.
Month four; you give up another cigarette. Now you are only smoking 37 cigarettes a day. You get the pattern by now.
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Month forty-two; you’re giving up your last cigarette. It’s amazing! You quit & you don’t even have an ounce of craving. Why? Because you dealt with all those craves during the last 41 months. You’re a free man!
Follow the plan & be free! If you can’t follow this simple plan, what makes you think you can quit cold turkey? The beauty of this plan is that you never do anything that you can’t deal with. Therefore, you stick with it. Therefore, you win!
It’s basically the same method for all socially acceptable addictions. This method may not be appropriate for illicit drugs. You should seek professional counsel on those topics.
You can watch my video How to Quit Smoking at YouTube.
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